Valentine’s Day is this Sunday. And with that “holiday” often comes the pressure to find a date, right? For some reason in today’s culture, when it comes to dating, Christians are too willing to compromise in so many ways. In Scripture, we see the warnings in regards to relationships. Throughout the Old Testament, God was consistently warning Israel against marrying those who worshiped different gods (see Deut. 7:3-4, 1 Kings 11:1-8,Exodus 34:16, etc.). Why? As we see in those passages, God warned that they would turn the hearts of His people away from Him. Sure enough, the people didn’t listen, they married them anyway, and they turned from God. In the New Testament, we see a continuation of these warnings. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 may be the most familiar, as it tells us “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?…” This passage actually goes beyond just marriage to a larger scope in life, so it is quite applicable to dating as well. During my 15 years of working in college ministry, the #1 issue that I have seen derail the faith of college students year after year is not intellectual arguments, but their relationships. How do you avoid this trap? Here are 3 steps that are a good start:
1. Pursue God first in your own life. Your relationship with Him through His Word and prayer will give you the proper perspective. You’ll find your identity in following Jesus, not in what another person thinks of you.
2. Look for members of the opposite sex who are also pursuing Christ, and who demonstrate growth and a maturing in their faith (not just someone who says they are a Christian). You’ll be an encouragement to each other as you seek to help one another follow God’s leading. You’ll have the main purpose in common, to glorify God with your life.
3. Have accountability with your church, family, and Christian friends. If they see reason for concern, be willing to listen.
Relationships can be a difficult part of life, but God always knows what is best for us! Trust in Jesus, and follow His leading (especially in who you date and marry).